Clutter and Stress
So this is a topic that everyone hears and yet one that we all try to avoid. But why? Are we afraid of something? Are we subconsciously thinking someone will think less of us? Are we just really not that concerned about it and hope that one day it takes care of itself? I don’t know about you, but the clutter in my house is something that I’ve been focused on and really trying to work at. Stress and clutter do go together! Think about it, you’re stressed because the kids’ rooms are full of toys and are always messy, the kitchen always has way too many dishes to even put away, there are too many towels that you don’t know what to do with, and the list goes on and on. All that causes us to get stressed and as moms we want to pull our hair out and we stand there thinking, “How did we end up with all this mess?”
As moms I think most or all of us want that perfect house that you see in the movies and on TV shows where it’s always clean and put together! Let’s face it, that just doesn’t happen, so why should we let ourselves get so stressed out?! I’ve tried to figure this out in my head and as much as I want that picture perfect house it’s just not going to happen for me right now. I’ve come to accept that and that is ok. My kids are young and most of my house is designated for running my daycare, so that’s what I need to focus on and the rest will follow one day.
I have learned to make do with what I have and use our space for what we need. I’m in the process of redoing most of my house and making it work for us and making it feel like a home. What I have noticed is that I don’t feel as stressed and that it feels good to let things go and have a sense of de-clutter around my house. It’s nice to actually feel like I accomplished something and it looks great! I have found a lot of peace with this and I’m loving that things are much easier to clean up, as there isn’t as much stuff that has to be moved in order to clean! As a mom this is so thrilling and makes my day! I mean come on, as moms anything that makes our day go easier is just down right amazing!!
So how am I doing this? I think some or maybe even most of it is in our minds and I know this sounds crazy, but it is. If you get it in your mind that you may need a certain object or thing one day and you hold onto it for awhile and then let’s face it, it just sits there and starts to collect dust, and in the end makes you stressed! It took me awhile to really be able to let go of things and know that I’ll be ok in doing so. I think some people think that if they let go of things that it makes them not as important in a way. It plays with our minds as we all live in such a materialistic world! Everything and everyone is judged secretly, and not by what we have and own. But why? Are we looked down upon if we have less and yet live a happier life?! Honestly if I saw someone who was downright happy I would want to investigate how and why and do like they are to be happy too, right?!
So why don’t we all just learn to let things go and live a life that’s full of less clutter! I’m still in the process the more I go through things, and yes, this is a process that takes time and effort, but in the end feels so good and is totally worth it!
I have found that as I go through things I make four different piles: keep, donate, trash, and sell. Trash is an obvious one. I donate the things that we have outgrown and have no need for and sell the bigger items. I then add the remaining items to the keep pile. The keep pile is a pile that you really need to think wisely about. Only keep things that are a must and that you use on a daily basis and have a need for. I urge all moms, and really anyone, to start doing this and live a life that is a little less stressed and cluttered.
Whether you want to admit that you have this issue or not, I think we can all benefit from letting go of a few things in our life. It can be something as simple as a dress that you haven’t worn in a year or even a few dishes that you seem to have an abundance of. As humans we need to live a simpler and happier life. Our aim should be to better ourselves and to feel good about ourselves. We all deserve that and we all deserve to be happy!
Don’t let your mind get the best of you! Avoid telling yourself that you can’t do it because you can – you just have to start! Maybe think outside the box in how you can achieve a less cluttered and stressed life. Trust me, you will find some peace and you can do it! Think positive thoughts and set realistic goals for yourself as you begin clearing the clutter and take it little by little until you reach the desired achievement!
I’m cheering for you all and I hope that maybe this gives you some encouragement. Remember, you are not the only one who struggles with clutter that leads to stress. You’ve got this!