We’ve all talked about mommy shaming. We will talk about it more. Daddy shaming, mommy shaming, shaming in general is just a big pet peeve of mine. I was talking to my mother yesterday and she mentioned, “When did it become so wrong to have differences of opinion and be able to have a civil conversation about it?” But really, when did it? Having differences of opinion is a beautiful thing. If we were all programmed robots, all thinking the same thing, there would never be division. But imagine a world where everyone agreed all the time. I don’t think that’s beautiful. That is not diversity. [...]
My mother is Italian, and I come from a loving, high energy and very effusive family. No emotions on lockdown when I was growing up, (nothing has changed in that). Open expressions of love and feelings were never prohibited, and I’ll say with amusement that my energetically open, affectionate and readily communicative style of living was definitely something for my sweet husband to adjust to. But despite having grown up with such love and depth, I wasn’t prepared for the beyond intense, past all consuming feeling that is being a mom.
I don’t think anything, or anyone, can actually prepare you for the insanely, crazily beautiful, soul devouring, [...]
Having been a mother for 24 years has been an amazing ride. It has been full of tears – tears of laughter and tears of sentiment and joy. To new mothers everywhere, parenting is definitely worth the sleepless nights in the beginning. Though child development has a predictable pattern, your child’s reactions to their world weave a unique set of memories you can call your own. I am sharing mine below. Cherish yours. Live, laugh, love and have a Happy Mother’s Day!
YOU KNOW YOUR CHILD IS GROWING UP WHEN . . .
AT 16 MONTHS, your toddler has learned how to crawl out of her crib, walk all the way across the house to your bedroom and stick her pacifier in your mouth. [...]
I let my toddlers watch Cops awhile back. We were out of town, and for whatever reason our cable wasn’t working. We had a long day, I was tired, the baby was tired, and I couldn’t wrangle my wild stallions any longer. I needed some TV-time to get us to BED time. “Bad Boys, Bad Boys….Watcha gonna do…” that song is still one they love. It was all that was on that was remotely something they would watch. Luckily they didn’t really understand what was happening, they were just mesmerized by the police lights, sirens, and take downs. I was desperate. Having multiple little ones is hard work. They all wine and cry at different times, so it feels like no one is happy ever. [...]
I cried today. Those stinging tears of joy when the love in your heart is spilling out to the point your body can no longer physically contain it. It was just one of those simple everyday moments. I was helping my girls eat some lunch and the bigger Little Miss asked me to sing her a song and rock her. We found that song on YouTube and listened to it a number of times on full volume, singing together and rocking away in a kitchen chair. The Smaller Little Miss added in her coos and squeals while grabbing for more bites of her meal.
I looked up and there was (old) yogurt on the ceiling. I have no idea how exactly one of my children flung it that well, but it’s there and [...]
The other day I asked many different women in 5 different Facebook mom groups what they were struggling with and what would they like to change about it. All the women who responded stated that they were suffering from postpartum depression in silence, anxiety, and learning how to be a single mom. For the first time in my life, I’ve never related so much to a group of women who were experiencing the same situation as me.
I immediately gave them the link to a blog post that I had written about How to Make Single Parenting Work. I’ve gotten a good handle on single parenting, but my depression stills seems like an everyday battle. Many moms may experience the [...]